Mike,
Sorry to eavesdrop on your e-mail... I failed to look at the subject
before
reading it. You (and your girlfriend) have a responsibility to hold your
tongue(s). You don't know what happened, because you weren't there. If
you
choose to believe the girlfriend, that is your choice. In this country,
a mere
accusation of this kind can become a character assassination and
terribly
expensive for his defense even if he is found innocent. Then I hope he
would sue
his false accuser for irreparable harm to his good name and reputation.
"Filing" a complaint as a precaution against it happening again ignores
the fact
that this is what motivates the legal/police business to prosecute and
convict
innocent people... money. If you really want to document it, have her
write a
statement, seal it in an envelope, and have the postal service put a
date stamp
over the seam of the flap. Then store it safely away. You can even send
him a
copy.
Since you have known and trusted him, maybe you should call him on the
phone and
have a friendly chat about it before you jump the gun and make a false
accusation. This will also serve him notice that you know what she said.
If you
were ready to go there to "kill the SOB", surely you can muster the
eloquence to
advise him to stay away from her, including to not confront her about
telling
you. This would be for his own good too. Always bear in mind that it is
easy for
a woman to make such an accusation, including as a cover-up to something
she
did. It is very difficult to stop the ball once it gets rolling.
In common sense 101, she should have learned to avoid situations like
being
alone in a stairwell with a stranger. Just as he has a responsibility to
leave
her alone, she has a responsibility to avoid giving suggestive signals.
You too
should hope that he isn't murdered during your next visit to London,
'cause you
just told 500 people you are pondering killing someone. Yikes! I
wouldn't want
to be in your shoes.
Don't play with dynamite if you don't like loud noises.
Jim
PS: I fail to see the connection here with MG's, other than one man
asking for
advice from some others. Good luck my friend.
Michael Graziano wrote:
> Hey folks.
>
> I have a little news that's bothering me to no end. In fact, I'm quite
> upset.
>
> My girlfriend is currently going to school in London. I'm stuck here in the
> states.
>
> She called me more than a little upset Saturday night (3:30 am your time)
> that one of her friends, someone I actually know and whom we both trusted,
> trapped her in the stairwell of her apartment house and forced himself on
> her. Mainly just kissing, but a little more as well. She escaped by first
> kneeing him at the first opportunity, and then running into her apartment.
> THe advances were unwanted and unprovoked. He was a little drunk.
>
> After my initial reaction (which was to start making plans to fly to
> London), I realized that no good could come of it. Being arrested in a a
> foreign land is not what I had in mind for this week. My next thought was
> for her to report him to the police and file a complaint. Maybe not file
> charges, but at least have it on record in case he tries something else.
> Letting him know a report was filed might be a future deterent. Wini, my
> GF, doesn't think that will do any good. She is of the opinion that things
> of this nature are taken lightly by the police constables.
>
> What is your the general opinion on this matter. What steps can we take
> short of my killing the son-of-a-bitch? I promised her I would do nothing
> until i spoke with her, but doing nothing is eating me up inside.
>
> Mike
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